Lessons from Making My First Video: The First Step

For the longest time, I felt a pull to create. I wanted to join conversations that mattered—about life, growth, and the challenges we all face—but something always held me back.

Fear. Overthinking. Perfectionism.

Recently, I decided to stop putting it off. I hit record, picked up the mic, and filmed my first video. It wasn’t perfect, but that was the point. I learned so much just by showing up, and now I want to share those lessons with you.

1. Perfectionism Keeps You Stuck

Before I pressed record, I was consumed by the idea of “getting it right.” I’d compare myself to polished creators, wondering how they made it look so effortless. I convinced myself that my content had to meet some imaginary standard before I could even begin.

What I realized, though, is that perfectionism is paralyzing. It tricks you into thinking you’re protecting yourself from failure, but really, it just keeps you from taking action.

Once I let go of the idea that my first attempt had to be flawless, I could finally take that step. And guess what? The world didn’t end. The video wasn’t perfect, but it was real. And that's all it needed to be.

The Lesson: There is no "getting it right." The "right way" is whatever your way ends up being. And when you realize that, you are free to create however your heart desires.

2. Start with the First Domino

I spent so much time trying thinking about the bigger vision, that the idea of reaching that larger goal felt overwhelming. So I made the goal to just get started. Hitting record wasn’t easy, but I made it simpler by focusing on one small step: turning on the camera. I didn’t worry about making something polished or profound. My only goal was to start

Once I turned on the camera (step 1), I moved to the next step 1... start talking. I felt uncomfortable and awkward for a few minutes, then at some point, I didn't.

It’s like going to the gym—sometimes the hardest part is putting on your shoes. But once you take that first step, the rest flows more naturally.

The Lesson: Don’t overthink the big picture. Focus on the first, smallest step. Sometimes that means just showing up.

3. Recognize and Reframe Limiting Beliefs

I had to face a hard truth: my fear of imperfection was rooted in deeper beliefs about who I was and what I was capable of.

Somewhere along the line, I developed a belief that I needed to get things “right." And if I didn't, that meant I wasn't enough or I wouldn't be loved. That belief led me to fearing abandonment and kept me from pursuing so many dreams—acting, music, creative expression.

Once I recognized that belief and could see it simply as a story I told myself, I could reframe it and focus on the more empowering belief like ... "the only right way is the way that works for me."

By shifting my perspective, I gave myself permission to try without judgment.

The Lesson: Identify the beliefs that hold you back, and remember they don’t have to define you. You can always replace it with a better belief.

4. Surround Yourself with Action-Takers

Earlier this week, I had brunch with a group of incredible people who had built amazing things by simply showing up. They weren’t waiting for permission or perfection—they were taking action and sharing their stories with the world.

Being around them reminded me that creating doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s about starting small, being consistent, and letting the process unfold. Their energy inspired me to take my own leap.

The Lesson: Surround yourself with people who inspire action. Their momentum will rub off on you.

5. Progress Is Better Than Inaction

When I finished filming, I noticed something: I felt proud. Sure, the video wasn’t perfect. I stumbled over my words, got distracted, and second-guessed myself. But I had done it.

That’s the thing about starting—you may not create a masterpiece right away, but you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment just for trying. Each attempt builds confidence, momentum, and a foundation to grow from.

The Lesson: Every small step forward is a win. Celebrate the effort, not just the outcome.

A Final Takeaway:

Filming my first video wasn’t easy, but it taught me something invaluable: starting is the hardest part, but also the most rewarding.

If there’s something you’ve been putting off because it feels too big or too daunting, take a breath. Focus on the first domino. Let go of the need to be perfect, and just take that first step.

I’m glad I did. And I can’t wait to see where it leads.

What’s one thing you’ve been waiting to start? Maybe today is the day to take that first step.